Amongst all other things, listen to your heart and be open to falling in love

I come from a traditional set up where dating is not necessarily encouraged and arranged marriages are still a more respectful way of life. Growing up watching mushy movies, I thought I wasn’t opposed to the idea of dating but in reality I didn’t find myself being very open to it either. There was a bit of confusion in my mind about this and I wasn’t sure of what part was I uncomfortable with. Was it being seen with someone and tattled on? Was it being sceptical about a validation from my peers? Fear of being physically attracted to someone and what that could lead to or a potential heartbreak? It was probably all of it and a certain amount of unsureity about my own feelings.

In my late teens, I remember being encouraged by my friends to date someone who had a crush on me. The guy and I weren’t friends. We had met only once at a party and he had expressed interest through my friends. We started hanging out together, sometimes in a Azerbaijani mulheres data group, sometimes by ourselves, getting to know each other better. All throughout I seemed to enjoy the attention and the affection that was being showered upon me but something stopped me from accepting him as that special person in my life. As a result, I could never reciprocate and eventually we stopped being friends. I felt hurt, disappointed and left alone. Our friends couldn’t understand either what caused that mental block.

Working out together, sharing food, partnering for assignments, going on drives meant spending quality time together to allow the intimacy to grow, the relationship to blossom, learn to take care of another person, share emotions and potentially find a companion for life

In the next few years of college too, I would consciously stay away if I knew that someone liked me. Continue reading →